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morals, manners and fear (and broken cameras) May 29, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — kitschcraft @ 2:12 pm

hey lovelies,
i haven’t forgotten you! I have been busy making bits and pieces (have made some cute little Japanese style dolls) but my camera has broken so no photos. This is the 3rd camera to break in 2 years. I seem to repell electrical equipment.
Anyway….i thought i would share with you something that happened to me this morning. It angered me so much i wrote to the ‘london paper’ about it!! I hope i am not turning into one of those old women who complain about stuff….
Anyway, this is the article i sent into their readers column thing….

I have just got off the tube, which is always a relief but was especially welcome this morning.
After a few stops I finally got a seat and sat down with my paper. The guy next to me was chatting to the woman on the other side of him, but not in a friendly way. He kept asking her if she was ok, to which she kept saying ‘yes’ politely. But he wouldn’t let it go…..he was obviously not satisfied with her not wanting to talk and started yelling at her, calling her all sorts of really offensive things. He told her she shouldn’t have sat next to him if she didn’t want to talk to him.
All the time, I was thinking….here we go, I’m gona be next. Then I saw his face peering over my paper and I knew it was time to leave. She agreed and we both got off early. She seemed ok and was being comforted by another passenger who decided he must have been ‘drunk or ill’. But as I walked off, it occurred to me that on a carriage packed full of people, no-one bothered to say anything or to intervene. I know it is supposed to be the English way to ignore each other on public transport but don’t we have an obligation to look out for each other?
I feel terrible that I didn’t stand up for this woman, but all the time recently we hear about people doing just that and getting killed for it.
I was scared, I admit it. And now I feel awful. To make it worse, I work in a job where it is my duty to try to protect women and children from men’s violence towards them. Every day I advocate for them and yet I froze on the tube.
Is it the English way? Are we all so scared of the repercussions of intervening? Are we so de-sensitised to this kind of behaviour that we don’t even notice it anymore?
So, if you are reading this on the tube, just look around you and check everyone is ok. Hey, go crazy and maybe even smile at someone (in a normal way though, don’t freak them out….)
And to the woman who no-one helped this morning; I am truly sorry.


One Response to “morals, manners and fear (and broken cameras)”

  1. I was sorry to hear of your experience in the tube, but agree with you that we are all to easily led into believing we shouldn’t interfere. I think we are are caught unawares and can’t think how to react. I have done exactly the same sort of thing and felt guilty afterwards, don’t know what I’d do if it happened again! That’s worrying!!
    It’s good you stayed with her, so you didn’t leave here completely alone.

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